Superb advice. Now may I elaborate on it a bit?

As justlookin has so wisely said, the most important factors (after to obvious sanitary and disease prevention ones) are learning to relax the anal muscles and trust in your partner.

First about relaxation, this is not especially difficult but it does take some practice because the normal state of these muscles is to be at least slightly tensed to keep the anal opening closed. But once the anal muscles are relaxed, most anuses can open enough to very comfortably accomodate most reasonably sized penises. Please note the weasel words in that last sentence: "most" and "reasonably sized". I'm sure that there are some very tight anuses that cannot open enough to accomodate some very large penises, but these are very much the exception. Generally, if you're motivated, you can do it.

Now, about trust. An unwritten rule of anal sex is that the person being penetrated gets to control the entry. If you are with a co-operative man, he will readily understand this.

Finally about positions. The photo you have posted with your question shows you face down with your butt in the air. That position very well might play into your fantasy of being "taken" by a man, but I would not recommend it for your first time. It is difficult to control the entry in this position. And surely you want your first time to be pleasant. After you've learned how, you can work up to this. What position do I recommend? The other man lying on his back so that you can lower yourself onto him.

Best wishes and good luck.

anal sex is best to be avoided. First it's not natural. Secondly it's not hygenic & prone to disease.

Pissy Rant Fairy? Because you always need to take your viewpoint to the level of a personal attack, even without naming names, your credibility is zip. You obviously would prefer nobody get any responsible health advice.


Your reference to 'precautions' is a sham. You don't tell the whole truth. The facts about condoms are that, according to the manufacturers, the failure rate for condoms is between 5-14%. This refers to vaginal sex. With anal penetration which is much rougher tissue, the failure rate is higher, Add to this the possibility that the wrong lube may be used, further degrading the condom and suddenly you have a recipe for potential Russian Roulette. Also, condoms will do nothing to prevent HPV infection.


The further mention of 'clean' is also a whitewash; no amount of douching can eliminate microscopic pathogens and viruses.


The muscles in your anus resist penetration because they're telling you something your brain seems to want to contradict.


You mention 'a gentle partner', but give no advice on how that 'gentle partner' should be found. No advice on whether it should be a long-term friend or a ad answered in a sex rag. No warning that the latter is unwise. No advice on what to look for in a partner, just that he should be 'gentle'.


Justlookin, if all this is the best advice you can give, please...give none. Some young guy is going to go down the wrong path and regret later that he believed you when you minimized the real truths.