Not really sure if I should post this on here, but here goes..
I've been seeing this guy, but he can barely get me off.
I'm a squirter, and usually get off 10-30 times. He gets off in 10 minutes. Last night he mentioned getting lube, which I have NEVER needed.
I'm sexually frustrated and annoyed. Not at him, but the fact that I'm having so much trouble getting off with him. (He's not huge, but is bigger than my typical -as I usually go for smaller guys). He just doesn't satisfy me, and I don't know how to "fix" it.
Any tips, ideas for better sex?
I'm tired of not making a mess.
I found that a lot of women think that it's up to the guy to satisfy her, and there is nothing she can do. But unlike guys, who get satisfaction mostly from the same things, every single woman is unique, and it's hard for the man, to figure out what that particular woman wants and needs to achieve satisfaction from sex.
Maybe he is just not that experienced and if you want to be loved a certain way, you got to show him what exactly you want. Choose positions where you have more control and switch positions often. Pick a soundtrack that matches the rhythm you want to follow.
Look through some porn, pick what you like and play it while you have sex to give him a hint of you want. Or just openly tell him that you want to try THAT. Don't be afraid to guide him and tell him what and how to do.
Also, an easy way to make a guy last longer is to make him cum prior to penetrative sex. Just make sure that you give him some time to recharge before getting to it. I suggest riding his face in the meanwhile, not to waste any time. Some men need just couple of minutes, while others could use an hour and some just can go once a day.
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Aaah, you know that feeling when you write a huge post and then your browser glitches and everything is gone.... I'll rewrite it, hold on.
I almost always start out giving him oral (because it turns me on to do so). But I'm afraid to go all out on him, because I don't want him to get off in my mouth first thing, again... I'd at least like to taste my own juices! lol
I've tried guiding him, I'm still working on it.. He's finally figured out how to finger me mostly to my liking. (I don't like my clit rubbed, I guess that's unusual).
The porn was an idea, but he doesn't like seeing other guys. He likes lesbian porn. I like threesomes, but lesbian porn gets boring after a moment and does nothing for me.
I haven't gotten off in 4 days... and we finally had sex and I got off once. This is really frustrating me. I've just never had this issue. No matter what I have tried... and I keep telling him to tease me. (smack my lovely with his cock)... and he doesn't think about it during. I portray a certain leadership in directing him, but I'm trying to help him figure things out as well. I've brought up toys.. and he acted offended/bothered. But it is an open option. Frankly, I'm wondering if lubricant may help me get started... but I
I've always made lots of my own, so really not enjoying that idea. Thanks!!
It just so happens, that a lot of women tend to cling to the way they get pleasure, programming themselves to respond to only one way of stimulation. You see, women either learn on their own or get taught how to receive pleasure. Whatever that was, is now what she expects to get in order to receive pleasure, until something happens and she learns to do it the other way. It could be a small thing, could be something huge. For example, with one of my ex bf's I needed a finger in the ass, two in the vag and sucking and flickering of the clit, with my first husband I needed him to call me a slut, a bitch and a slap on my butt, a dick in my ass and some porn on screen. Then I had a jungle fever, and all I wanted was a big black cock on a super tall caramel dude, preferably being fucked standing from behind, wearing high heels, and he had to be not only tall, caramel and with huge dick, but also smart and without any tattoos.
So, You either get over the teasing or get someone who knows how to tease you just right.
Are you attracted to that guy? How is the chemistry between you two?
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