I wonder why we have to all be placed in some category?? Cant we all be sexual beings enjoying what we like. Without having to fit someone's idea of what sex we are. PETRO is right this kind of thinking has screwed up a lot of people!!

I believe people are born to be who they are. At least I know I was.
Paul.

We are all born with a certain amount of 'homosexual genes',both men and women.I think which ever way you go is a lot to do with your upbringing and other influences.

Honestly it does matter to me people want what they want and we live in a country people died standing up for our beliefs and rights. So it doesn't matter to me if someone's gay,straight,bi whatever. I also dont take offense to being complemented by gay or bi guys but I'm simply straight. I'm not turned on in the least by a man I love women and have a specific taste in them. What I can't stand is somebody who likes to lie about who they are to other people and sneek around. Lil politicians who have a wife and kids but sneek around to be with other guys. Or someone who gets married to a woman to make them look straight while they try and get guys or something. Just be who the hell you are. I'll be honest about something though. That Pete Buttigieg who ran for president,I can respect that he is gay and married but I would never in the world climate be supportive with our country under threats from a Muslim ran country. Thats just lil poking at a bear. I'm not saying I dont or wont support any gay politician like I said I dont care as long as someone is open. But when it comes to leader of the country I think anyone can do it straight gay male female whatever. But I also think if a gay couple were to take the white house first the Taliban would completely do away with the peace talks. And every Muslim country on earth would have possibly animosities against us for that happening. Like I said our country has the freedoms and some people believe that our constitution is worldwide and is basic human rights but it isn't. Other countries have laws that says anyone who has homosexual sex must die and aboilish the abomination. I dont see why others can't understand that about the world. Some countries just dont believe in it and our constitution and our freedoms can't be made or accepted in some countries. Just because we have the freedoms here doesn't mean other countries just have to fall inline overnight. I mean look Saudi Arabia just started letting women drive after Trump visited right after becoming president. The US has been after them for 20 years to make that law over there. What I mean is some things take time to change. We can't just make a world law and the whole world has to comply just because we are the US. I mean get real.

Not sure on that one i know if you go back in roman history the roman men would go to bath houses an do it with each other maybe at one point it was normal i look at it like this i could have been born that way but on other hand im attracted to guys more than female i enjoy sex with guys but thats how i look at it as just sex regaurdless if male or female maybe thats my way to justify what i do i just enjoy dick

I think it's more of a choice but it also depends on how you are raised a little bit. If someone is told being anything other then straight is wrong they probably will believe that. They won't let themselves experience other sexual side of things. I always thought sex was about making each other feel good. So it's never about me. It more about letting someone help you have an orgasm. So I can let a guy or women help me feel good. Then I can help them or we work together at the same time. I say it's more of a choice and chosing to get yourself go free and sharing your sexuality with someone.

I was invited to sexual activity with other boys who also did some voyeuring with older but wasn't drawn to it at age 9/10. I was introduced to cock play by older at 11 but still didn't take it up.
At about 13, after a late puberty, I did get involved with my friends from the boy scouts and we used to go camping in couples for the week end and have a good bit of exploring play. Then came the girls and later marriage.
It wasn't until I was very much older and the internet came along that I found a renewed interest in the prospect of playing with other males. Never had any inclination to engage in anal sex; or sucking as an active participant due to the health issues.
So, what that tells you in answer to your question, I don't know. Perhaps we are all different and find our way according to circumstances and what we fancy.

I think sexuality is far too complex to force it into an either/or scenario. I do believe that for the most part, a person's sexuality is ingrained in them from the very beginning, but I think so many factors can and do affect how that sexuality develops over the years.

I think that most people would say that their sexual orientation is not a choice. It's something they came to realize at a particular point in their lives (frequently during puberty, but sometimes earlier or later), but they did not choose it. It chose them. How that person acts on it is a choice, of course.

As for me personally, as a homosexual male, I can tell you with 100% certainty that my sexuality was NOT a choice. Would've been a much easier life in my early years if I had been straight. But I wouldn't change who I am for all the money in the world. Was I born gay? Possibly...maybe even likely. But ultimately, I am the way I am because I was designed to be this way. Whether it started at birth or later on doesn't really matter.

I imagine that I’m sharing a similar experience with many people. Emotionally and physically attracted to women, deep kisses and actually checking them out, these are two things I don’t get from men. While interested and turned on by cock the fantasy is better than the fun.

In a FREE society, there is abslutely NO RELEVANCE to the answer of this question... Be what you are or/and be what you want to be, it's all OK!

Born that way. Why do I believe this? Firstly, science, specifically male twin studies where the evidence suggests both genetic factors and hormonal factors.

Secondly, given that virtually every country in the world in modern times has homophobic (etc) elements, why would anyone choose to be gay/bi/trans etc? Seriously?

(My guess is that this theory came about because some religions have texts which contain very small references to things like "man not lying with man", and based on that, some believe that God thinks homosexuality is wrong. If God thinks that, he wouldn't create non-heterosexual people, therefore homosexuality must be a choice. I'd like to confront a preacher head-on with this argument: "Mr Preacher Man, are you saying you could choose to enjoy gay sex?" As spermkiss says, homophobia and being in denial are closely related...An experiment was done showing erotic images whilst measuring blood flow to the penis. Homophobic heterosexual men had more blood flow than their non-homophobic counterparts…)

Thirdly, if it’s a choice then I assume that penguins are also capable of making the conscious decision to choose to be gay….

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Live and let live, that’s what I say!

Sexual orientation is hard wired into one's brain so the answer is "Born that way".

Whether one acts on that orientation is another matter. So many anti-gay people (men mostly) claim that being gay is a choice gay men make. That is, of course, nonsense. Writer and sex advice columnist Dan Savage makes the interesting point that these homophobes very well might be deeply closeted gay men who made the choice NOT to act on their gay tendencies. Chapter 5 "The Choicer Challenge" in his book "American Savage" is must reading on this subject. Indeed, the entire book is must reading.

Hummm good question for me it’s a choice I started playing around with guys at age 12 but I’ve had some hot women to as a teenager so having both I realized guys ring my bell better

I should add I don't think a gay person could live with a straight person and be happy. They won't have an emotional connection. That's not a choice. I think people are born that way. People talk about sex but never really talk about being emotional with someone. Once you both have sex together. You have the rest of your day to be with someone

Hubby here. I'm emotionally attracted to women, hence I'm married, but have craved sucking cock for as long as I can remember. No-one ever forced cock on me, so I must have been born this way? Luckily my wife understands, and we've had loads of fun sharing cock over the years.