Well, there's a male and a female side to the site and although there are a lot of gay males there's a lot more too. As for myself, I don't really care if someone sees that I'm on this site. It's my wife's and my privileged as consenting adults to have a little fun outside our normally sedate lives. As for my girls, they've come to know dad's a man's-man and I don't hide my love of women. I'm faithful to my wife but that doesn't mean I became blind to 50% of the worlds population.

As for getting caught and leaving the site, it rather depends on who your caught by. The right person might like to join in on the fun rather than rat you out to the public. And if so, spit in their eye and tell them your an adult and what you do in your life is none of their business.