JO: Harder to reach orgasm? Any helpful hints?

By Tempp [Ignore] 23,Sep,24 07:49

Same here, it takes more work, though on the plus side, the orgasm is more intense. One thing that helps is to wait a few days, or until the urge is physically strong and genuine.

By mikeinaz [Ignore] 29,Sep,24 18:23⤴

Thanks, Tempp.
OK, just wait it out and eventually it will happen...
But, but, mister! You're asking me to be PATIENT!!!!

Thank you for caring enough to respond, Tempp. Your answer is probably the most sensible of all.

By Tempp [Ignore] 02,Oct,24 17:16⤴

Sometimes it’s amazing how people will respond to forums by rambling on, barely on topic, yet not even trying to answer the poster’s question.

By Timpeter [Ignore] 22,Sep,24 17:32

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By Timpeter [Ignore] 22,Sep,24 17:33⤴

By mikeinaz [Ignore] 29,Sep,24 18:59⤴

Thank you for responding, Timpeter!

I can say that without exception, having someone willing to spend AMPLE time admiring and teasing my cock is the very best of all. We are all just so impatient and busy... It's really ridiculous.

By Timpeter [Ignore] 30,Sep,24 02:20⤴

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By nekekal [Ignore] 22,Sep,24 22:03

Yes. I never used to be able to orgasm without my cock in something, like a mouth or cunt. I could ejaculate but not orgasm. As I got older and the more I masturbated, I now orgasm when I ejaculate. But after a long time jerking my cock, it sometimes will not fire.

I have found that I just need to play with it more. I usually cannot expect to cum the first time that I try. I usually wake up and play with my cock, get hard, and enjoy it but not cum. Then I might look as some porn of cocks being sucked, or fucked, again get hard and enjoy the way it feels but probably not orgasming. But by now, my brain is obsessing about my cock and I will wait until the wife goes to bet, get my cock out, put some good porn on and masturbate until cum is going everywhere.

Go to bed, sleep really well and repeat the next day.

By mikeinaz [Ignore] 29,Sep,24 18:37⤴

Wow, nekekal...
I have to say, I really like how you think about this and what you are doing about it.
Basically, I have been doing the same as you. Going at it little by little.
So right now just hearing you say that you masturbate this sort of interrupted-and-then-resumed way, gives me more validity to do it like you do and feel I'm alright with it.

Sometimes I just need to know that I'm not the only one dealing with an issue and not in "some strange way" I'm trying to deal with it.
I wish I could do this kind of "incremental masturbation" with you as my JO buddy, sir; I would look forward to however long it took to get off.

By nekekal [Ignore] 30,Sep,24 01:33⤴

Sometimes it works better than others. Today, i started out in bed and then about noon took a shower and warm water and soap seemed to do the trick. It about collapsed my knees when I orgasmed. But yesterday I played with my cock several times, about beat the poor thing to death, and nothing. It didn't even feel that good.

You are correct, it always feels good to know that you are not alone. Before I found this site I was sure that I was the only guy whose wife would not fuck him, but there are a lot of guys in similar positions.

It would be nice to get together and jack off. Play with each others cock. There is nothing like a strange hand on my cock to spur it to greater hardness. It would be great to spend some time enjoying cock.

By Gntlmn [Ignore] 22,Sep,24 22:08

Hang in there! My wanking frequency dropped off quite a bit the last year.

By mikeinaz [Ignore] 29,Sep,24 18:27⤴

Thank you Gntlmm ...
OK, I'm expecting too much frequency of myself.
I think you're saying I need to accept my own aging with more grace! [cringe]

By Gntlmn [Ignore] 30,Sep,24 01:07⤴

I have an enlarged prostate, and am a heart attack survivor. Intensity is more important (for me) than frequency.

By wycowboy [Ignore] 23,Sep,24 11:07

I take anti-depressants and I deal with it a lot. I either just have to keep on going until I orgasm or break it up into several sessions a day and cum at night.

By mikeinaz [Ignore] 29,Sep,24 18:19⤴

Yes, wycowboy. I have been through everything you're going through with antidepressants. Fortunately these days I am doing OK without them, so at least I "can" more frequently get off than I could on antidepressants, which sometimes just felt miserably hopeless.

I can't prove it, but I firmly believe that devastating anorgasmia in depressed teenagers taking antidepressants, who can't talk about this private issue to anybody, largely explains the teenager-suicide connection.

By chubbyloves [Ignore] 23,Sep,24 01:23

I am 77 and Jack off a few times a week. I have a sucking machine that I got on Amazon that helps a bunch.3 speed suck And good vibration. That with some lube and porn. I am good. I tried a few others, not as good. Z flash einseo store

By mikeinaz [Ignore] 29,Sep,24 18:04⤴

Hey, thank you so much for replying, chubbyloves! I have been thinking I'd like such a "milking" machine. Thank you for giving me a starting point to look into this idea!
Uhh... how noisy is the machine, btw? Can I use it discreetly in one room without the whole house knowing I'm milking myself ...again?

By eduard99 [Ignore] 23,Sep,24 17:17

When I masturbate and a sufficient lasting erection and a final orgasm will not come, first I need a good sleep of 8 hours or more without disturbing. I am 67 now and maybe you find satisfaction by not doing it every day - in the age of 60+. Be in good health, have a slim shape. I don't have any experience with any Cialis or so and I don't want to begin that. Twice a week having a lasting and hard boner, doing some edging, cumming with a good load is a good life.

By mikeinaz [Ignore] 29,Sep,24 18:00⤴

Thank you, eduard99! Good advice about ample sleep! Yes, even if I can't always cum, I do enjoy fiddling with my dick, sometimes just very lightly while looking at you guys playing with yours.

By slim44 [Ignore] 24,Sep,24 18:09

Do you by any chance take Tamsulosin (Flomax) for enlarged prostate? That may interfere with ejaculation, possibly with arousal/reaching orgasm.

By mikeinaz [Ignore] 29,Sep,24 17:57⤴

Thank you for responding, slim44. No, I stay away from that because I am aware of this issue. I seem to do okay without it and in fact I am told that taking tadalifil (Cialis) actually helps stave off peeing problems. I just keep a juice pitcher by my bed and roll over and pee into it to avoid getting so awake by repeatedly getting up. I HIGHLY recommend it btw. If your wife gets all pissy, hey, it's called a 'chamber pot', so get over it. Just do rinse it out each morning.

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