A couple years ago, my wife told me she learned our recently widowed friend Mark is bisexual. He told her that he had started dating and he was dating a few men as well as women! She seemed to approve of Mark’s bisexuality. So, in a moment of spontaneity, I told her I’m bisexual, too. I said I’ve been secretly getting together with another married guy for almost 20 years. Of course, she was taken aback, but she said she was not entirely surprised. I seemed completely comfortable when we’ve attended a gay friend’s happy hours.

She said she didn’t mind me getting together with another man once in a while. Women enjoy sucking penises; why I shouldn’t men enjoy doing it. To lighten our conversation, she asked did I think Mark and I might get together some time. I responded that it was possible.

Soon enough, that possibility turned into a reality. Mark and I decided to add a “benefits” feature to our long-time friendship! With my wife’s knowledge and approval, we’ve been having occasional “play dates” ever since.