First of all, all women are different and you should be open to try many thing until she is truly excited and satisfied. If you see very little response, and then some sort of a "OOh, Aaah, I'm good", most likely she got bored and faked it.
You have to figure out what excites her. There are two options, you can either ask her or keep trying different things until something works.
First of all, you need to start with a place. I guarantee that most women would prefer a clean bedroom with fresh sheets, rather than a dirty couch in the middle of a man cave after the super bowl.
Create a romantic atmosphere, dim lights, relaxing music, turn off the TV or your video game.
Start with a shower, slowly wash her body with a clean washcloth, keep some neutral soap, that is not going to make her smell like a men's locker room shower. Offer a clean towel.
Proceed to the bed, where you can inspire her sense with gentle touches and kisses. Don't rush, take your time. Watch a video or read an article how to give a relaxing massage.
Go down on her. Offer her to sit on your face and ride it. Make sure that your face is soft to the touch. This will give you an idea of what rhythm she likes. Offer her to lay down and place a pillow under her hips. Gently lick her pussy, slowly making your way to her clit. Educate yourself on different techniques, watch some lesbian porn, where women actually achieve orgasm. When she becomes soaking wet, insert a lubricated finger(fingernails clipped and filed) into her vagina, tease her, make her push herself onto your finger. Find a g-spot, work your way around. Try a sucking motion with your mouth as you rub her g-spot. She either going to cum at some point, offer to suck your dick or just tell you that she wants you inside.
As you have sex with her, allow her some room to move, before mounting her and going for your own win. Use lube. Ask her to get on top, place your hand on your pubic bone and rub her clit as she rides your dick. If you lack agility and coordination in your hand, get a little vibrator and place it on her clit. Give her compliments, tell her how sexy she looks, how much she turns you on.
I would avoid rough thrusting, unless she asks for it. Try slow, gentle moves, pull it out, push it in. Many women got a lot of nerve endings around the opening, rather than at her cervix. Try moving side to side, see what works for her.
Every woman has a unique orgasm, some are quiet some are loud. Some don't make a sign, some scream, some click their fingers and throw their head back, some grab pillows, some scratch your back, some curse and bang on the wall. You'll notice some vaginal contractions, redness in her face and a slower breathing compared to what she had prior to orgasming. Some women don't get wetter after they come, and if you want to keep going you might want to either sprinkle some water or ad more lube.
There are no positions that are going to work every time with every woman, try different things. Learn different kama-sutra poses, try what you think will work best for the two of you. Height, size, weight come into play, when determining the best positions. What worked for a short voluptuous girl might not work for the tall and skinny one.
And one hint everybody is doing wrong: If she is close never(!) go faster or slower, it will kill her highest moment. Just be steady with the same speed, same power etc.
Bless you peach! we should rally to have this published in cosmo etc. and every mens magazine in existance - instead of some of the bullshit they publish in their articles xx
I guess my wife is part of that 25% she cums every time. I love to feel her pussy tighten and her juices splash against my hard cock. Last night we came at the same time, there is no better feeling.
It's been estimated (by various sources) that only 25% (approx) of women can reach orgasm by penetration during intercourse...... The most useful thing to please a woman is to get some other stimulation on to her clit while thrusting. You need to talk to her and tackle this as a couple and get her to show you how to do the best stimulation for her.
Personally, I have come to see that a large part of this 'problem' is that men have a programmed need to thrust energetically for their own pleasure and to reach their own orgasm.......is you thrust for the womans pleasure you need a quite different mind set and method. I have found that women greatly enjoy being fully penetrated and then the base of the penis 'worked' against the clit and labia.....a 'higher' up position is useful for this and also 'move' your mind from the head of your penis to the base and sort of 'nudge' the womans opening.......most women seem to really get into this if you do it steadily and caringly for long enough.
You have to figure out what excites her. There are two options, you can either ask her or keep trying different things until something works.
First of all, you need to start with a place. I guarantee that most women would prefer a clean bedroom with fresh sheets, rather than a dirty couch in the middle of a man cave after the super bowl.
Create a romantic atmosphere, dim lights, relaxing music, turn off the TV or your video game.
Start with a shower, slowly wash her body with a clean washcloth, keep some neutral soap, that is not going to make her smell like a men's locker room shower. Offer a clean towel.
Proceed to the bed, where you can inspire her sense with gentle touches and kisses. Don't rush, take your time. Watch a video or read an article how to give a relaxing massage.
Go down on her. Offer her to sit on your face and ride it. Make sure that your face is soft to the touch. This will give you an idea of what rhythm she likes. Offer her to lay down and place a pillow under her hips. Gently lick her pussy, slowly making your way to her clit. Educate yourself on different techniques, watch some lesbian porn, where women actually achieve orgasm. When she becomes soaking wet, insert a lubricated finger(fingernails clipped and filed) into her vagina, tease her, make her push herself onto your finger. Find a g-spot, work your way around. Try a sucking motion with your mouth as you rub her g-spot. She either going to cum at some point, offer to suck your dick or just tell you that she wants you inside.
As you have sex with her, allow her some room to move, before mounting her and going for your own win. Use lube. Ask her to get on top, place your hand on your pubic bone and rub her clit as she rides your dick. If you lack agility and coordination in your hand, get a little vibrator and place it on her clit. Give her compliments, tell her how sexy she looks, how much she turns you on.
I would avoid rough thrusting, unless she asks for it. Try slow, gentle moves, pull it out, push it in. Many women got a lot of nerve endings around the opening, rather than at her cervix. Try moving side to side, see what works for her.
Every woman has a unique orgasm, some are quiet some are loud. Some don't make a sign, some scream, some click their fingers and throw their head back, some grab pillows, some scratch your back, some curse and bang on the wall. You'll notice some vaginal contractions, redness in her face and a slower breathing compared to what she had prior to orgasming. Some women don't get wetter after they come, and if you want to keep going you might want to either sprinkle some water or ad more lube.
There are no positions that are going to work every time with every woman, try different things. Learn different kama-sutra poses, try what you think will work best for the two of you. Height, size, weight come into play, when determining the best positions. What worked for a short voluptuous girl might not work for the tall and skinny one.
Good luck.
Personally, I have come to see that a large part of this 'problem' is that men have a programmed need to thrust energetically for their own pleasure and to reach their own orgasm.......is you thrust for the womans pleasure you need a quite different mind set and method. I have found that women greatly enjoy being fully penetrated and then the base of the penis 'worked' against the clit and labia.....a 'higher' up position is useful for this and also 'move' your mind from the head of your penis to the base and sort of 'nudge' the womans opening.......most women seem to really get into this if you do it steadily and caringly for long enough.
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