dunno about that, given the strides in technology, like the ability to determine which centers of the brain are active during sexual pleasure.

The other answers here tended to focus on duration, intensity or frequency of orgasm, but don't get at my question: do sexual pleasure and orgasm *feel* the same for men and women. I don't know how to describe sexual pleasure in terms of some other kind of pleasure. (All I can say is "it has an oh-so-good feeling.") It has its own specific "flavor" the way a food has a specific flavor that can't be described in terms of other flavors but we know what it's like to taste that food.

I'm guessing that if food tastes the same for men and women (generally, with individual variations/exceptions), and if other things have the same experience-quality for both sexes, then the same goes for the experience of sexual pleasure even if intensity, duration or frequency vary. If the brains and nervous systems of men and women were different from one another when it comes to physical sensations, we'd have heard about that, and we'd then have a good reason to think they might experience sensations differently.

Really good evidence of similar "feel" would be if both men's and women's sex organs had the same kinds of nerve endings or structures. Unfortunately I haven't gotten good info from google about what the nerves in sex organs are like that makes them so different feels-wise from nerves elsewhere.