You have a sincere request and goal, stay true to it and
you'll soon meet your ideal guy for you.
Patience is everything, rather than rushing or jumping into
something that may turn out too good to be true.

As for the Hookup scene, it has its Pros and Cons...
If you're a guy who wants to stay single and totally
independent to live, come, and go as you please
then hookups can be fun with all the variety it offers
as long as you play Safely.
The cons about it is that you never know what mystery meat
you'll run into who isn't honest about his health status
or personal status in general, and by the time you realize
you may have caught an STD it's too late to undo that
damage done except to get treated for it immediately
upon the first signs of it.

Of all the sites you mentioned, I highly recommend
you stick with Adam4Adam as the guys on that site
are more classier than most guys you might find on
the former Craigslist (or now the new site, Doublelist).
Four years ago I met my regular Top fuckbuddy on Adam
who fit my criteria perfectly.
He and I only see each other maybe once or twice
every other year, but we're both happy with that
scarce arrangement. I don't mind him romping with
other guys because he's not so frequent or promiscuous
about it; and neither am I.
I often romp with other guys (orally, and handjobs);
but when it comes to full-blown sex I always reserve
myself for my top fuckbuddy.

Adam is also a cool site not just for hookups,
but also for lasting friendships as well.
And I've met several wonderful friends on that site
as we all share similar hobbies in common for
Art and Music.

While you're waiting to meet your guy, continue
staying focused on building your life so that you and
him can share a happy creative life together outside
the bedroom as well, going places, doing fun things
together, other than just getting laid all the time.
When getting laid becomes a "routine" it gets boring
when you know what to expect.

Good luck!

i really wanted it to be more than just sex though. i honestly wanted a lover/partner, but i live in St. Petersburg Florida. all the gay guys here are Very promiscuous and just want hookups.

i thought out in the small towns of florida, i'd have better luck finding one lonely man who wants a longterm relationship but i don't know how to find that (it'd be MUCH easier if they didn't close the personals section on craigslist)

Dude, you are a young hot stud! You can get pretty much any guy or any situation that you set your mind too. By the way....I live in Panama city,Fl not to far from the beach. I have a 24' pool,hot tub, tiki bar, and a spare bedroom and I gotta tell ya, I would suck you silly more than once a day if you let me! Check out my pics and hit me up!

That is not an unrealistic goal. When you want something sometimes you have to wait for the right "stars to align".
Keep at it and don't give up.

If you stop looking, the chances of finding that needle in the haystack would be zero.

Good luck!!